Simply stated, Gary Wilson changed my life. For reasons unknown, I had harbored a weakness for pornography from an early age. When Internet pornography came into existence, I found it all but impossible to resist. With a simple explanation of what was happening in the brain, I was able to gain perspective on the process and effectively counteract the cycle in which I had been trapped.
Now, in and of itself, deciphering this process was a major accomplishment on the part of Gary Wilson, but it doesn’t stop there. Gary Wilson saw fit to make this information readily available to others, and at no charge, via his website. Beyond that, he stood up to opposition from people that sought to mischaracterize his efforts as some sort of censorship.
One significant element of Gary Wilson’s work was that he didn’t seek to moralize the problem. Instead, it was presented as simple, factual data, which explained why pornography could be addictive and he left the moral aspect of the matter to the individual. I never felt that I was being preached at, or condemned to shame, and absent this effect, I was able to deal with the matter without feeling the need to become defensive. In my case, the effects were almost immediate; from the first time I read the information on Gary’s site, to the point where is began to break the yoke of porn addiction was effectively instantaneous. I had moments of relapse, but meaningful progress began as soon as I visited Gary’s site.
I mention this, only because it illustrates the power of accurate information. In my case, I had tried all sorts of approaches to combat the problem, but a simple explanation of how Dopamine works and how the decrease of Dopamine receptors occurs was enough to make sense of a phenomenon which had puzzled me for most of my life. In my case, anything even remotely pornographic seemed to alter my state of mind and I almost felt as if I was being led by pornography. That, the altered state of mind, was the enemy I fought. By understanding the role of Dopamine and Dopamine receptors in this process, I came to understand that this altered state of mind was an illusion caused by a reduction in Dopamine receptors. It was that simple, and it changed my life.
Descanse en paz Gary Wilson
Gracias a ti y a muchas personas que seguían tu trabajo hice uno de los cambios mas positivos en mi vida.
Thanks Gary. Though we didn't know each other you are an incredible human being and I am sure all the good you have done for us will be paid back tenfold.
Gracias por ayudar a tantas personas.
Wow... normally it does not really bother me when someone I've never met dies (like a movie star or a musician or so), but since I received the message that Gary died I am truly sad. Gary Wilson changed my life in a very, very profound way and I would not be the person I am today without him and his work.
RIP Gary. Thank you for everything you did and my thoughts are with your loved ones.
I am sorry for your loss. This is truly unexpected and no one ever wanted this to happen.
May the God be with him, and with the ones who are reading this.
Especially for his relatives. You guys need to stay strong, stay happy, and fight back Covid-19. He won't want you guys to be in a bad mood and bad shape.
Peace out. I am also sorry for my bad English skills.
Usted me ha cambiado mi vida, sir Wilson, desde 2012. Nunca lo olvidaré. Siempre será parte de mí. Gracias infinitas por su vida. Descanse en paz.
I just want to say a big THANK YOU to the late Gary Wilson, his TED talk really opened my eyes on the effects of pornography on the brain and the YBOP website is an excellent resource!
I am truly grateful for all his research and wish his family and friends the best.
I wouldn't have been the same man without you, THANKS!
Thank you for raising the awareness of this issue so early on and as a legacy to your work i hope that we all continue to educate and challenge ourselves further and that we make others aware of the destructive nature of porn.
He was ahead of his time, and has undoubtedly saved many lives by bravely shining a light in such a dark place. I'm sure that many more lives will yet be saved by the legacy he leaves.
We were so utterly gutted to hear of Gary's passing. Gary touched both our lives, not just in a professional capacity but also in a personal way, both through his compassion and his knowledge.
If it had not been for Gary's help when we reached out, our film and our work would not have been what it is. Thanks to Gary, his input and his help connecting us with others, we are now educating parents who are taking active steps to protect their children from the harms that can arise from exposure to online pornography. He has helped to protect each and every one of them. We are eternally grateful for having met him.
And we are honoured that we were able to spend time with him, Marnia, Arion, Noah & Gabe in Oregon in 2019. We enjoyed getting to know him personally and had a lot of fun and laughter playing mini-golf, axe throwing and eating good food.
Gary's work and his dedication have been fundamentally game-changing for so many. It is with heavy hearts that we say goodbye to someone so badly needed in this world xxx
No other person's work has been as helpful and educational for me in my own work on pornography than Gary Wilson's. He paved the way for having science/research-based conversations about porn's harms, that transcend ideological boundaries. I'm so very grateful to him for everything he's accomplished in his lifetime.