Dear Gary ,
Thank you for the work you have done over the years with your research , I am forever grateful !
See you on the other side Gary !
A presto !
Thank you for all the work you have done Gary. You have saved many lives with your research, mine being one of them. I came across your book just as my problem was getting out of control. I will be forever grateful for everything you have done. Thank you Gary. Sending love to you all. Rest in Peace.
20 year old from Scotland in recovery.
I am on my way to becoming a monk which was the life that I always wanted, but always fell short of till I came across your legacy. Had it not been for the impact you had on the movement of liberating people from PMO, then I probably wouldnt be where I am now. May you attain Nirvana in a future life.
This unbelievably sad news has really hit me harder than I would have believed.
Gary changed my mind and my life, and will continue to do so.
His influence is immeasurable.
Gary Wilson's book "Your Brain on Porn" is a source of enlightenment that changed how I looked at porn and helped me through my recovery journey to freedom.
He's alive through his book which will continue reforming youths' lives.
Not often the heart hurts hearing about the passing of a man I knew little about. But you helped me Gary. More than you could ever have known. Thank you for speaking up and speaking out. Thank you for savings myself and millions of others, some of whom have not yet seen your work. Rest easy ❤️
During that Tedx talk you used the term "game changer." The game changer for me was your talk. Thank you Gary, with much gratitude.
I am a man from China. I am so sad to hear the news.
Thank you Wilson, thank you for you help!
We love you Gary.
Thank you for giving us insight and helping us improve both our mental and physical health. May you rest in peace.
We lost a great one in the recovery community. Gary was a big reason why I pursued recovery. Dealing with porn addiction in the early 2010’s was a struggle as most experts dismissed porn as an addiction. His book made me feel vindicated and gave me the desire and motivation to pursue recovery. Without him I would still be suffering as an addict
So sad and upset to hear of Gary's passing. May you rest in eternal peace you helped so many people all over the world and we are so grateful. Sincere condolences to family and friends. #gonebutneverforgotten
Oh Gary, you are one of those amazing people whose depth of character revealed itself slowly over time, and never seemed to find a limit. Generosity, kindness, wry wit, and so so so protective of truth, justice, and the vulnerable. How you loved the young men who sought help for problem porn use! I had the blessing of attending a weekly meeting with you and you never lost sight of compassion and empathy for the challenges boys and young men face as they navigate the pornographized world.
You cared for girls and women too -- you were the first resource I ever found that highlighted the struggles that females face with porn, and I build all my remaining resources on your excellent foundation. When I wanted to give you credit you said no, don't mention it. You were not corrupted by ego and jockeying for position, you just gave and gave. I am thinking of the Shel Silverstein poem "The Giving Tree." It breaks my heart to know that I can't give you anything now. But I can carry on your legacy, and I will to the best of my ability, as long as I live.
Thank you Gary, for being you. You set the bar for all men. You were a once in a lifetime friend. I carry you in my heart and now think: WWGD? What would Gary do? And I try to do that. Much love to your amazing wife Marnia and your very cool son Arion.
Gary's active approach to kinetic anatomy, an understanding of systems in motion, was deeply influential during and after my time at Heartwood Institute, as I learned to pay better attention to all the sensations in my body. I'm forever grateful to him for that awareness!
I was a freshman in high school when I stumbled upon Gary's TED Talk on YouTube. I learned much about the harmful effects of porn addiction that I never knew before. Gary is a pioneer of this rapidly changing landscape in our understanding of addiction. To me, Gary Wilson is synonymous with our community and their crusade against porn. Your teachings have affected a great part of my life and have been truly influential to not just me but many others. Thank you for your research, dedication, passion to spread awareness for all of us who never even realized. From the bottom of my heart, rest in peace.
Just heard the news and wanted to send my deepest condolences from Australia. I only met Gary and Marnia once when in Houston in 2016. We enjoyed a wonderful dinner with them one evening and shared some wonderful stories about their visit to Australia and many other topics. We chatted many times after that over Skype and both Gary and Marnia always had time to talk. Such incredible people :-)
Gary was such an amazing guy, had a great sense of humour and barrelled on regardless of adversity. I know his research and website has had a huge impact on my life and on the lives of many others and we will forever be indebted to him. I've read his book a number of times and have also referenced it many times in my talks and discussions.... plus I have enjoyed listening to the audio book version with Noah (aka. Keanu Reeves) reading it.
To all of Gary's close friends and especially Marnia and Gary's son, we're sending our love and sympathies from Down Under in this difficult time. Lots of love from Jason.
I am saddened greatly by Gary's passing, his loss being felt more acutely for the fact that I am currently 4 weeks into a 'reboot' and am reading 'Your Brain on Porn' to help guide me through the process. It is not easy, but I am given hope by the science and the testimony Gary brought together. Knowing what I can expect to feel, and why, is proving vital in my efforts to turn around 20+ years of utterly damaging behaviour. God bless you, Gary.
Rest in Peace my friend, you and your work will never be forgotten 🙏
So surprised and sad to hear this news! Gary was my teacher at the Heartwood Institute @2002/3. He was one of the best and most memorable teachers I've ever had. I still quote and refer to him with my clients regarding health and bodywork to this day. I regret not getting in touch with him and Marnia during the last several years during our annual visits to Ashland. He graciously helped me get materials together for a myofascial class the last time I saw him. I will miss him tremendously. A great man, teacher and friend.
Descubrí a Gary Wilson como la mayoría de personas, a través de su vídeo en YouTube 'The great porn experiment'. Eso fue en diciembre de 2014, cuando acababa de dejarlo con mi primera novia y estaba notando los peores síntomas de la adicción al porno. La necesidad de saber qué estaba pasando conmigo, por qué las cosas que me gustaban ya no me interesaban tanto y por qué tenía problemas sexuales en los últimos meses con mi ex me llevaron a encontrarme con ese vídeo.
De hecho, el descubrimiento de que había una adicción al porno y sus efectos me respondió muchas preguntas. En el pasado hubo tiempos en los que me atraían vídeos hardcore y de porno gay. A pesar de que soy heterosexual, esto me llevo a replantearme mi condición sexual en ocasiones. También los problemas de erección con muchas mujeres en los años previos a conocer a mi primera novia y plantearme por qué tenía un estado permanente de depresión, a pesar de que las cosas me iban bien. Todo eso coincidía con los síntomas que provoca la falta de energía que produce masturbarse todos los días y en ocasiones más de una vez.
Así es como empecé a dejar de ver porno y masturbarme. En diciembre 2014 por el vídeo de Gary Wilson. Lamentablemente, ahora en 2021 todavía sigo luchando contra esta adicción. Por supuesto, ya no es como antes. Los síntomas no están, tengo una novia con la que no tengo ningún tipo de problemas en la cama y disfruto de mi vida mucho más que antes. He tenido mis altibajos, pero nunca he sido capaz de sobrepasar 53 días sin masturbarme viendo porno.
En definitiva, aunque ya no me afectan los síntomas como antes, no quiero ser dependiente de nada ni de nadie. Quiero construir una fuerza de voluntad inquebrantable. Ahora tengo más controladas las situaciones me desencadenan las recaídas y controlo más mis emociones. El hecho de que esto es un problema que afecta a muchas más personas como yo y que muchos ya lo han superado solo me hace reafirmarme en mi idea de salir adelante y dejar atrás esta adicción.
Gracias Gary Wilson por tu descubrimiento. Sin duda, el tiempo te pondrá en un lugar más importante en la medicina psicológica del que ya ocupas. Lamentablemente, el porno ha hecho y seguirá haciendo mucho daño a la sociedad, pero tu trabajo me ha ayudado a que ese daño no sea mayor. Gracias.
I always though Gary was an example of how other people should aspire to be. Having lacked a father figure for the majority of my life, I appreciated how thoughtful he was about treating me like a part of his family. Whenever I heard he was coming to town, I always looked forward to spending time with him. He was always kind, considerate, and easy to talk to, even after he'd gotten sick. I remember in school when so many of Arion's friends were having a hard time with our own family lives, we all agreed that if more of our parents were like him, there would be a lot fewer unhappy and broken families. The world is less for having lost him.