We lost a great one in the recovery community. Gary was a big reason why I pursued recovery. Dealing with porn addiction in the early 2010’s was a struggle as most experts dismissed porn as an addiction. His book made me feel vindicated and gave me the desire and motivation to pursue recovery. Without him I would still be suffering as an addict
So sad and upset to hear of Gary's passing. May you rest in eternal peace you helped so many people all over the world and we are so grateful. Sincere condolences to family and friends. #gonebutneverforgotten
Oh Gary, you are one of those amazing people whose depth of character revealed itself slowly over time, and never seemed to find a limit. Generosity, kindness, wry wit, and so so so protective of truth, justice, and the vulnerable. How you loved the young men who sought help for problem porn use! I had the blessing of attending a weekly meeting with you and you never lost sight of compassion and empathy for the challenges boys and young men face as they navigate the pornographized world.
You cared for girls and women too -- you were the first resource I ever found that highlighted the struggles that females face with porn, and I build all my remaining resources on your excellent foundation. When I wanted to give you credit you said no, don't mention it. You were not corrupted by ego and jockeying for position, you just gave and gave. I am thinking of the Shel Silverstein poem "The Giving Tree." It breaks my heart to know that I can't give you anything now. But I can carry on your legacy, and I will to the best of my ability, as long as I live.
Thank you Gary, for being you. You set the bar for all men. You were a once in a lifetime friend. I carry you in my heart and now think: WWGD? What would Gary do? And I try to do that. Much love to your amazing wife Marnia and your very cool son Arion.
Gary's active approach to kinetic anatomy, an understanding of systems in motion, was deeply influential during and after my time at Heartwood Institute, as I learned to pay better attention to all the sensations in my body. I'm forever grateful to him for that awareness!
I was a freshman in high school when I stumbled upon Gary's TED Talk on YouTube. I learned much about the harmful effects of porn addiction that I never knew before. Gary is a pioneer of this rapidly changing landscape in our understanding of addiction. To me, Gary Wilson is synonymous with our community and their crusade against porn. Your teachings have affected a great part of my life and have been truly influential to not just me but many others. Thank you for your research, dedication, passion to spread awareness for all of us who never even realized. From the bottom of my heart, rest in peace.
Just heard the news and wanted to send my deepest condolences from Australia. I only met Gary and Marnia once when in Houston in 2016. We enjoyed a wonderful dinner with them one evening and shared some wonderful stories about their visit to Australia and many other topics. We chatted many times after that over Skype and both Gary and Marnia always had time to talk. Such incredible people :-)
Gary was such an amazing guy, had a great sense of humour and barrelled on regardless of adversity. I know his research and website has had a huge impact on my life and on the lives of many others and we will forever be indebted to him. I've read his book a number of times and have also referenced it many times in my talks and discussions.... plus I have enjoyed listening to the audio book version with Noah (aka. Keanu Reeves) reading it.
To all of Gary's close friends and especially Marnia and Gary's son, we're sending our love and sympathies from Down Under in this difficult time. Lots of love from Jason.
I am saddened greatly by Gary's passing, his loss being felt more acutely for the fact that I am currently 4 weeks into a 'reboot' and am reading 'Your Brain on Porn' to help guide me through the process. It is not easy, but I am given hope by the science and the testimony Gary brought together. Knowing what I can expect to feel, and why, is proving vital in my efforts to turn around 20+ years of utterly damaging behaviour. God bless you, Gary.
Rest in Peace my friend, you and your work will never be forgotten 🙏
So surprised and sad to hear this news! Gary was my teacher at the Heartwood Institute @2002/3. He was one of the best and most memorable teachers I've ever had. I still quote and refer to him with my clients regarding health and bodywork to this day. I regret not getting in touch with him and Marnia during the last several years during our annual visits to Ashland. He graciously helped me get materials together for a myofascial class the last time I saw him. I will miss him tremendously. A great man, teacher and friend.
Descubrí a Gary Wilson como la mayoría de personas, a través de su vídeo en YouTube 'The great porn experiment'. Eso fue en diciembre de 2014, cuando acababa de dejarlo con mi primera novia y estaba notando los peores síntomas de la adicción al porno. La necesidad de saber qué estaba pasando conmigo, por qué las cosas que me gustaban ya no me interesaban tanto y por qué tenía problemas sexuales en los últimos meses con mi ex me llevaron a encontrarme con ese vídeo.
De hecho, el descubrimiento de que había una adicción al porno y sus efectos me respondió muchas preguntas. En el pasado hubo tiempos en los que me atraían vídeos hardcore y de porno gay. A pesar de que soy heterosexual, esto me llevo a replantearme mi condición sexual en ocasiones. También los problemas de erección con muchas mujeres en los años previos a conocer a mi primera novia y plantearme por qué tenía un estado permanente de depresión, a pesar de que las cosas me iban bien. Todo eso coincidía con los síntomas que provoca la falta de energía que produce masturbarse todos los días y en ocasiones más de una vez.
Así es como empecé a dejar de ver porno y masturbarme. En diciembre 2014 por el vídeo de Gary Wilson. Lamentablemente, ahora en 2021 todavía sigo luchando contra esta adicción. Por supuesto, ya no es como antes. Los síntomas no están, tengo una novia con la que no tengo ningún tipo de problemas en la cama y disfruto de mi vida mucho más que antes. He tenido mis altibajos, pero nunca he sido capaz de sobrepasar 53 días sin masturbarme viendo porno.
En definitiva, aunque ya no me afectan los síntomas como antes, no quiero ser dependiente de nada ni de nadie. Quiero construir una fuerza de voluntad inquebrantable. Ahora tengo más controladas las situaciones me desencadenan las recaídas y controlo más mis emociones. El hecho de que esto es un problema que afecta a muchas más personas como yo y que muchos ya lo han superado solo me hace reafirmarme en mi idea de salir adelante y dejar atrás esta adicción.
Gracias Gary Wilson por tu descubrimiento. Sin duda, el tiempo te pondrá en un lugar más importante en la medicina psicológica del que ya ocupas. Lamentablemente, el porno ha hecho y seguirá haciendo mucho daño a la sociedad, pero tu trabajo me ha ayudado a que ese daño no sea mayor. Gracias.
I always though Gary was an example of how other people should aspire to be. Having lacked a father figure for the majority of my life, I appreciated how thoughtful he was about treating me like a part of his family. Whenever I heard he was coming to town, I always looked forward to spending time with him. He was always kind, considerate, and easy to talk to, even after he'd gotten sick. I remember in school when so many of Arion's friends were having a hard time with our own family lives, we all agreed that if more of our parents were like him, there would be a lot fewer unhappy and broken families. The world is less for having lost him.
Thank you Gary for your contribution to the society. Ever since I saw your TED talk, I have never been the same and gave insight into something I considered norm at the time, though I didn't feel right doing it. You have helped me live a better life, much better than I thought I could ever be; build resilience and confidence to make me the man I am now. I will honour you by being a better person for the rest of my life and helping people as much as I can.
Rip sir gary wilson .helping people whom feel broken lethargic and want people to be in healthy relationships and feel more emotion and love,and marriages and jobs to be saved or new jobs and better health ..Condolences to his family and friends .Never new he was ill .
I'm a Brazilian guy of 49 years of age who was deeply blessed by his wisdom and guidance since year 2013. We talked a little bit through emails and I even invited him him to come to Brazil to teach about his discoveries and he said he would rather stay in the states. He told me that his book would be translated and published in Brazilian Portuguese, and I really would love to know if this job has already begun, or of we can go for it so that we may spread all over Brazil his powerful and gentle voice. I'll miss his humor and intelligence, but I'll never forget his words and his courage! Love you Doc! Every time I would call him "Doc", he'd replied "I'm not a Doc"... My love for the family and friends! ❤️
I have been trying to quit porn for 15 years with only any tangible progress and change in the last half year, but I do feel so much different. I only just learned of Gary's work from a past on nofap on reddit and I have been combing over his work and listening to his lectures at work since. It breaks my heart that Gary has passed as I feel men like him and the people that he helped changed from his work are necessary for the betterment of not just individuals, but all people. I can only hope further research comes out to prove Gary's points further. My best wishes go out to the family for the loss of Gary, I hope you're all doing well.
It was an honor to work with Gary a bit, and to carry on the work he did creating the kinesiology course at AIM. It was a pleasure getting to know him a bit, his open-minded brilliance, kindness and dignity through struggles, and absolutely great sense of humor. He will be missed.
Gary was an advocate for victims of abuse. As the spokeswoman for the largest organization for women affected by their husband's porn use, I was so grateful for Gary's perspective. He really understood the danger and difficulty partners of porn users face daily. He had compassion, understanding, and a will to cut through the falsehood's many pornography addicts and the porn industry push. He was a true advocate for victims, and I will miss him dearly.
I discovered that I had a pornography addiction by searching about social anxiety on youtube and finding Gary's amazing Ted Talk about it. One of the most common symptoms was social anxiety, he said. Since then, I'm fighting my addiction, and just now, reading on NoFap forum I discovered he passed away. I'm from Brazil and I believe Gary is helping the whole world with his lectures, videos and his site yourbrainonporn. My condolences to all his family and let's honor his legacy by fighting this horrible addiction that is destroying lives all around the world. Thank you, Gary Bruce Wilson!
Gary was a bright light that helped to guide us in one of the darkest places of our world. We are so grateful for his life and humble and generous service to so many!
I'm from Brazil.
Garry helped a lot of people at world, your work deserve to be remembered for eternity. And too your courage for go against the modern discurss.
I only want to thank for to help me and more people.
Rest in peace.