Discovering Gary's Ted talk helped me get my life back on track. Arguably it went off track when I accidentally found porn at around 10yo, then battled depression and social anxiety (both of which disappeared without porn use.) His science-based yet layman communication style with a good sense of humor! started a journey to self discovery for me, and so many others.
For something that is so difficult to talk about, Gary made it easy to listen to, read about, and understand without prejudice. I have no doubt he has paved the way for further research, healthy debate, and self-improvement for generations to come.
Thank you Gary, and I wish your family & friends all the best!
Because of you, I recovered my happines and my brain. Thanks of you millions of people have been saved and will be saved. RIP!
I will remember him and shooting hoops on his garage setup - he was quick with the dribble and a fine shot. I couldn't show my skills because they were mostly defensive. Like basketball, his concentration on what was being said and his feedback was always mindful and compassionate. I would show up for a visit sometimes with a sore back and he would dig in and find the muscle and the trigger and fix it - what a doctor! Irreplaceable man. Always with a big smile and a warm hug, I will miss him! -- Gary
Gary was an incredible teacher, he taught me anatomy & physiology at Heartwood Institute in such a unique way, as well his approach to deep tissue massage was unforgettable. I never forgot him or his methods over the last 20 plus years since I was his student. I have thought of him many times over the years in certain sessions with clients and most recently while retaking anatomy and physiology for nursing school. I was light years ahead of my cohort based on the foundation that was laid for me by Gary Wilson. I am deeply saddened to learn of his passing and am wishing deep peace and ease to his family and friends. Thank you Gary for being a wonderful light along my journey of life.
Gary was a beautiful human being that pursued his values with the utmost sincerity despite significant blowback. His work (alongside Marnia) is the “bible” on the damaging Heath consequences on porn and its devastating effects on the brain and body. He was extremely gracious with his time and was always willing to help. I can’t understate how important his work influences my abilities to treat patients who suffer from porn addiction on a daily basis. You will always be remembered as Professor Gary. May your soul rest in peace. May your work live on ad infinitum through your better half, Marnia. I can’t even begin to count the millions of lives you have influenced and made whole through your work. You will be missed but never forgotten! I’m honored to have been a colleague with you!
I was hooked on internet pornography since the age of 13. Ever since, my life has been affected severely. I was always having extremely bad social anxiety, depression and a variety of other mental illnesses. Fast forwarding to when I was 17, I discovered about Gary Wilson's page and his information regarding the effects of internet pornography, this was when my life started changing. After 4 years of living life with hopelessness and suicidal thoughts, Gary Wilson paved a better future for me. I seriously cannot thank Gary Wilson enough on giving me a second chance in life. May God always bless him.
A great man who positively impacted my life.
I never knew Gary personally and I've always wanted to know him personally but after reading his book and watching his TED talk really opened up my eyes about my pornography addiction. And if it wasn't for you Mr Wilson I wouldn't of known the harmful effects I hope wherever you are you are resting in peace we all love you and we will never forget the lessons you taught and I will spread the awareness and harmful effects of pornography. I thank you
Gary had a profound and lasting impact on my development as a physical medicine practitioner. He was a tenacious teacher that unapologetically challenged his students while also lending unwavering support. Decades after my massage education with him, I still fall back on the foundation he laid. My heart is full of so much gratitude for the contribution he has made to my life, and I am able to make for patients, and I also grieve for the future students that will miss out on his talent, passion, and wisdom.
Gary, thank you.
All I can say is that I wish I'd discovered his work earlier. His website was the tipping point between my feeling alone in my struggles with porn, and my feeling understood and connected to others on the same journey. One thing that helped me gain traction was spending 15 minutes on his site every day, just reading. It was such a treasure trove that I knew I'd never run out of interesting material. In particular, all the testimonial and scientific evidence on the value of rebooting gave me a clear goal and the initiative to achieve it. Gary, thank you for giving hope to people in their darkest moments. Let's keep your legacy alive.
I just wanted to say how much I appreciate Mr Wilson’s work. I would say his book saved my life at a time of great confusion. Rest in peace Mr Wilson.
Gary was my teacher at AIM and I assistant taught with him. He was my career mentor. This is my tribute to him. Gary was a dynamic teacher, therapist, and author. He taught me how to learn for the first time by showing me how to retain information by working with my brain and through behavior. If it wasn’t for him I wouldn’t have become a teacher, a massage therapist, or a coach. He taught me that humans learn by doing and that repitition and learning in small chunks is the key. You don’t have to be brilliant, you just have to know the way to learn.
One of the best things about Gary was his sense of humor. I especially saw it when I assistant taught with him. When teaching about the Longus colli muscle, he would show the students how to strengthen it by doing an exercise called the “vomiting dog” (the position is self explanatory). Just as the students got into position with their eyes on the floor he pulled a camera out of his pocket and snapped a photo of everyone in this ridiculous position, then quickly put it back in his pocket before they realized. I asked him if he did this with every class and he quickly told me he had a small collection of students doing the vomiting dog exercise. Makes me laugh every time. Gary always had me laughing with his sharp wit and sarcasm.
He was an avid science lover and he showed me that the human body is a miracle in itself. He believed in the power of science helping people and always strove to learn more from research just to help more. Sometimes I would want to make physiological processes more complicated, or more far out and woo woo. I would get pissed sometimes by his matter of factness. Years would pass and I would learn more and research more only to realize he was usually right. This showed me the power of in depth learning and continuing to question and be curious. Never stop learning and don’t spread information if you yourself don’t understand it. He was so ethical and cared very much about not doing something if you didn’t know why you were doing it.
He would often try to trick me and my class with tough questions. At first we would be so mad and think he was so cruel only to realize when taking the national exam that that very “tricky” question was on there. We would be so glad we messed up so royally because it was stuck in our memory so strongly. Failure sticks in your memory longer- smart right?
Gary took me to see my first cadaver, compassionately realized how it made me feel, and showed such respect for the donated bodies. He taught me how neurotransmitters and hormones impact behavior such as love, bonding, and addiction. He explained to me the intricacies of the immune system and how the fascia is brilliantly intelligent in its own right which research is now showing to be true. I can figure out an exercise and stretch for every muscle because of his incredible kinese lessons and could probably remember my O, I, and As with ease even though I’ve been out of the teaching field for awhile. He even taught me valuable lessons about potty training which made it so easy with Iyla. I was hoping to get to share that one with him!
I could tell a million more stories about Gary that left impression on me and how he impacted my whole life trajectory, but for now know that if you were a student of mine, or a client, that Gary is living through my hands and my teachings. If I ever sit or stand on the massage table or stretch your rib fascia, if I ever ask you if you played basketball because you have fantastic peroneal muscles, or show you on my skeleton how babies fit through the pelvic outlet in amazement and why you may subsequently have pelvic floor dysfunction, or if I ever rant on about the suboccipitals and the multifidus- it was because of Gary. Did you know you have two anal sphincters- one that warns you and one that keeps it in (the body cares about you lol)? Now you do so thank Gary.
You will be so missed Gary. I was really hoping to geek on on how cool the vaccine is with you and fill you in on my daughter and childhood development, but maybe in our next life. My condolences to all of his loved ones.
I was just under 20 when i discovered my PIED problem. I searched on youtube for answers, his ted-x video was one of the first videos I ever saw about porn-addiction. Since then (March 2019) i have watched that video a handful of times. Quitting porn addiction is not something easy and I couldn't believe what I would go through up until today. Gary Wilson's video had all the answers an addict is looking for, in just one video. I was from the lucky ones who found answers immediately due to Gary Wilson's video. Looking at his photo while writing this, I would like to say :
Thank you for your work, for your contribution and the information you provided us for free. Thank you
Rest in peace, your legacy will live for ever, like a fire that will bring light to the new addicts
Efklidis 22, from Greece
Rest in peace, Gary. Your work made me realize my addiction and I have improved so much since I saw your TED talk many years ago. Thank you for everything.
Gary was a friend of mine from our time together in Ashland, Oregon. He was a sensitive, kind, giving, and most intelligent human being. He helped me with my physical issues and did so out of the goodness of his heart. He is so sorely missed.
As a woman who was addicted to porn, I mourn the loss of such a courageous man, Gary, who fought against the massive porn industry. Eternal rest, O Lord, grant unto, Gary, O Lord and let perpetual light shine upon him!
Gary's courage and perseverance in the face of adversity, tireless dedication to the pursuit of the truth, and generosity in keeping us informed, alert and prepared, have had a profound impact on myself and countless others. His legacy will be a continuous source of strength, courage, and hope.
Gary Wilson was a giant in this field, giving the rest of us courage to do what we do.
Sending my love to Marina, Gary's son and their loved ones.
This man has changed a lot of lives including mine. may he rest in peace ;(